Posted By: Gillian
Why won’t he ask? Why won’t he propose? If you are like any normal girl in a relationship, who is of marrying age, the thought may have crossed your mind. Does the situation with Ryan Seacrest and Julianne Hough compare to your life?
In the book Why Men Marry Bitches, Sherry Argov says “In romance, there’s nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who has dignity and pride in who she is”. So take a page out of their celebrity life. Look at Julianne Hough, her man, Ryan Seacrest is on top of his game, but so is she. The singer, dancer and actress is a triple threat. So when he pulled the fake proposal live on TV, she brushed it off with a smile, like a lady. I don’t think Julianne is any different from the everyday woman. I’m sure she wants to get married and settle down. But until he asks, she’s not just sitting around waiting. Celebrity love is no different from ours, they are human too.
In an interview on Live with Kelly, Julianne explained that she doesn’t expect that Seacrest will pop the question on live T.V. However, she was a bit shocked by the fake out. The starlet explained that Ryan jokes around a lot, but normally gets a little teary eyed when he is being serious. So at first she felt it was a joke, but when she saw the teary eyed look from Ryan, she for a minute felt like it was an actual proposal. She continues to say that her friends were a little upset that he would pull a joke like that, but that she wasn’t upset and found it funny.
Most girls (agreeably so) would be quite angry at their bf if he pulled a stunt like that. But also there are some girls who are too caught up, expecting that every single action is a move towards the proposal.
There is something about that grey area in a relationship when you’re way past the “get to know each other” phase, and you’ve entered the “let’s get a dog” level. Regardless of when it hits you, there comes this expectancy, where as women we start to wonder about ifs and when’s of engagement. For most women, marriage is another milestone in life that should follow in sequence with all the other things that have been planned out. For men, it can be quite different. While girls (well, some girls) dream about their wedding all their life, most guys think about their wedding at their wedding. Not to say guys don’t care about the person they spend the rest of their life with. It’s just that. Men care more about the person, not the event. They also care about “the rest of their lives” part. Some guys feel like marriage is the end of their life as they know it. If it’s around that time in your relationship where marriage is being discussed, take a stance. Be that supportive, positive, secure woman in his life. The woman he couldn’t possibly live without. Not because she’s nagging him to death about a ring, but because she’s that person he can’t afford to lose.
The bottom line is, ladies must get their act together, be confident and live their life. He will ask when the time is right. So stop getting all teary eyed every time he bends down to tie his shoe lace. If he doesn’t ask in what is a reasonable time frame, feel free to reassess if you two are on the same page, and open the floor for discussion.
Gillian is a freelance writer from Jamaica. A newlywed who loves all things love, fashion, celebrity, photography, music, movies and travel.
Giulia: Today’s divorce rates are really discouraging. If you get the ring and a fancy white dress, great! If you don’t, how can you complain about having someone who will make you tea when you are ill and get you a blanket when you are cold?!