In the late 90’s, as soon as Ethernet cables started sneaking their way into dorm rooms, forward thinking offices and basements the world over, the internet has been front and center in love lives. Where once there were blind dates set up through friends, dawdling drawn out phone calls, and love letters, there is now emails, “sexting” and more online dating services than we could possibly ever need. On top of all that we have sites like Ashley Madison that actually encourage and facilitate infidelity. It’s clear everything having to do with hooking up can be found online .
The exact numbers, it depends on who you ask, but the fact is a huge portion of today’s marriages had their beginnings online, usually from dating sites. This is a massive shift in our demographics thanks to a technology that nobody had ever even heard of 20 years ago, but that’s the lay of the land and most people just take it in stride. This is just how things are now.
But getting folks together is only part of the story the online world has brought on. The internet is a time waster like no other, an excuse to stay available for work even in those shrinking hours couples spend together at home, and of course, the elephant in every hard drive, online pornography.
The rule of thumb is that any possible weird fetish you can imagine (not “partake in” even, just Imagine!) already exists online, and there are so many avenues for pornography of every stripe that it starts to make sense when people talk about how Porn is a “mega-Industry”. That means the men in our lives, those visually driven mammals, are getting a huge dose of anything-but-vanilla every time they have a free minute online, and it’s almost always an unrealistic view of sex and of women. I’m sorry to burst your bubble boys, but the only girls who like happy endings from first person POV are getting paid for it. I promise you.
So, between misogynist porn, Facebook flirting and the infinite distraction monster the internet can be, it’s easy to argue that increased internet usage and literacy has had a negative impact on our romantic lives.
That’s part of what we want to take on with Tokii, we’re trying to open lines of communication and drag the love/sex/commitment discussions back down to earth. We want to hear from both sides of the wider gender discussion, keeping it fun, but still taking a stab at figuring out what’s important for our couples and putting things like fantasies and desires into a proper perspective.
The internet is a huge part of everyone’s life, and Tokii wants to be the force that that strengthens relationships that are sometimes too distracted or too busy to do things the old fashioned way. Try Tokii.com today!
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Karla Stephens-Tolstoy, Tokii CEO & Founder
A business and brand maverick, skilled in building start-ups and building brand management teams in North America, Asia and Europe.