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First, my deepest condolences regarding your loss. It has long been said that there is no more devastating thing a couple (or even a person) can experience than the loss of a child. It doesn’t seem the natural order of things. Because it is so fundamentally difficult a loss to experience, it comes with it [...]

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I am 35 and I am single. This has been the case since 2009 at which time I split up from my long-term partner, if five years fits in to your definition of long-term. I don’t particularly like being single nor do I like reinforcing a cliché by taking some solace in the single life by [...]

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  Hi.  A tough situation for sure.  At the time you’re in the thick of things, it can seem like an earth-shattering balance must be struck (you know the one:  seeming cool enough to continue the superficial game of fun and sex while still maintaining your dignity and having your needs met).  Stepping back a [...]

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Outspoken Democrat, James Carville, and his equally-politically-feisty Republican wife, Mary Matalin, make it hard not to view passionate political differences in a somewhat romantic light. The fact is, however, the famous, political couple is more the exception than the rule when it comes to mixing love with politics.  Why?  The way we view politics speaks [...]

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I got to the restaurant a little more than ten minutes early, so I decided to wait around outside a while to make sure I wouldn’t seem too eager. I don’t love the politics of dating and relationships, but these things are necessary when you aren’t completely sure about the person you’re meeting. I took [...]

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Contrary to the behavior of – say – EVERY GUY IN THE UNIVERSE, guys don’t really want their girl to be easy.  It’s almost like he’s got an internal dialogue going on that goes something like this: If she’s into it, I’m definitely NOT going to say “no.”  If she’s not into it, this is [...]

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Luckily, to be a sexual go-getter you don’t need to do a lot of talking—you just need to do! I’m tempted to quote a very famous athletic wear slogan here, but I’ll restrain myself, since it probably popped into your mind already. There’s a lot of truth to the idea that sometimes we over-think ourselves [...]

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First, this is a really tough situation, and there’s no easy answer. Start by knowing. You’re not alone. 3.3 million men (11.1% of U.S. fathers) are reported to live with at least one stepchild in the U.S. I can assure you that while each family comes with its own, unique look and feel, divorce is never [...]

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A modern take on The night before Christmas.  With apologies to Clement Clarke Moore and Henry Livingston. Touch base with Tokii. Get Together. Get Talking. Get Intimate. Join Tokii Today! Like Tokii on Facebook, Follow us on Twitter. Get inspired with Tokii Pinterest, Get a behind the scenes look at Tokii on Instagram.

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In response to requests for Tokii to answer questions from members and the public at large in a frank and direct way, we have brought onboard, a tough talking, calls it like he sees it individual,  Straight Shooter Steve. From time to time, Steve will field your questions in his unique and blunt style. Be [...]

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