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  Hi.  A tough situation for sure.  At the time you’re in the thick of things, it can seem like an earth-shattering balance must be struck (you know the one:  seeming cool enough to continue the superficial game of fun and sex while still maintaining your dignity and having your needs met).  Stepping back a [...]

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Outspoken Democrat, James Carville, and his equally-politically-feisty Republican wife, Mary Matalin, make it hard not to view passionate political differences in a somewhat romantic light. The fact is, however, the famous, political couple is more the exception than the rule when it comes to mixing love with politics.  Why?  The way we view politics speaks [...]

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New Tokii Guest Experts share their opinion on faith and religion, both for the individual and within our daily relationships. How do you share your faith? Try This DiscoveryGame – discover yourself and your partner on a sexual, emotional and intellectual level and have fun while doing it.             Touch base with Tokii. [...]

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Note: Anger, envy, gluttony, greed, lust, pride and sloth. Whether or not committing one of these sins will destine you to an eternity stoking Satan’s furnace is up for debate but one thing’s for sure, committing them in a relationship may leave you all alone and out in the cold. In this seven-part series, writer [...]

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While “friends with benefits” gets all the press, there’s something else going on between friends that, although rarely discussed, is far more commonplace. It happens when romantic partners become so comfortable with each other they disregard their sex life entirely. Let’s call it “friends without benefits.” If intimacy with your partner is declining even as [...]

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First, this is a really tough situation, and there’s no easy answer. Start by knowing. You’re not alone. 3.3 million men (11.1% of U.S. fathers) are reported to live with at least one stepchild in the U.S. I can assure you that while each family comes with its own, unique look and feel, divorce is never [...]

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Note: Anger, envy, gluttony, greed, lust, pride and sloth. Whether or not committing one of these sins will destine you to an eternity stoking Satan’s furnace is up for debate but one thing’s for sure, committing them in a relationship may leave you all alone and out in the cold. In this seven-part series, writer [...]

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For the past several years a strange little dance has occurred each autumn as television networks begin unleashing their new primetime line-ups. The sexuality (or lack thereof) of each regular character from scripted shows is analyzed and recorded – then plugged into a math equation. That’s how we know, for instance, that this year CBS [...]

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Don’t Call Them the Blues – Relationship Diaries From the onset of puberty until just after my seventeenth birthday, I held onto my virginity as if it was a rattlesnake. I couldn’t wait to get rid of it, but no one else seemed to want it either. As much as I tried to shake it [...]

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Amie Martin – When she’s not tripping over Legos or happily existing in a pretend “princess kingdom” with her girls, Amie Martin can be found utilizing her skills as a master-level social worker, writing and – if any time remains – being a nut with her buddies. Relationship Ghost of Christmas Yet to Come:  Part III [...]

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