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First, my deepest condolences regarding your loss. It has long been said that there is no more devastating thing a couple (or even a person) can experience than the loss of a child. It doesn’t seem the natural order of things. Because it is so fundamentally difficult a loss to experience, it comes with it [...]

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First, this is a really tough situation, and there’s no easy answer. Start by knowing. You’re not alone. 3.3 million men (11.1% of U.S. fathers) are reported to live with at least one stepchild in the U.S. I can assure you that while each family comes with its own, unique look and feel, divorce is never [...]

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For most people navigating the hell-scape that is modern dating, they know that a good portion of the viable candidates on the market will have kids. For some it’s become something of a four-letter word, viewing them as brats that you have to endure in order to get some quality face time with Mom or [...]

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Generally, I wish all the fathers – but really those who are dads, daddies, daddas, papas, and other endearing male parental types – out there a Happy Father’s Day.  Today is the appropriate day for barbecue and booze – beef and beer.  Substitute those elements according to your lifestyle choice, and party responsibly yet heartily. [...]

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Mothers go through hell. Through nine months of pregnancy, torturous hours (and sometimes days) of labor, late night feedings, early morning diapers, food splattered onto fresh clothes, hair soaked with spit-up, no more make-up, no more dignity—and the list goes on. But if you ever find a mother, ask her if she’d trade a single [...]

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We are a hurried people. Jobs, responsibilities, money and family have the best of us caught up in a serious frenzy for most of our lives, and with that in mind we’ve put together a video we hope will get you centred and bring you around to everything that’s important in life. Think of it [...]

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No two people think and act the same, nor do they respond to situations in the same manner. It’s no wonder we run into conflicts and it is especially no surprise that the person we love and chose to spend the rest of our life with, is the one we are most likely to find [...]

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Staying together “for the kids” is a really bad idea. Doing your best to repair your relationship for the sake of the kids is really good idea. Unhappy parents make children sad, but being separated doesn’t mean that the kids are happy. No adult would want to live out of two homes for 10 or [...]

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Relationships are complicated, especially so when there has been love, hate and everything in between. This movie took me through a merry ride of questioning, as it lead me through the complexity of the relationship between Jake (Alec Balwin) and Jane (Meryl Streep) after ten years of divorce. There were times when I rooted for [...]

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Kramer vs. Kramer was released in the days before VCRs. In those days movies were released in the theatres and it could be years before they came on television. After watching the movie this past week, it’s hard to connect to those days when Joanna’s (Streep) decision to leave her child to “find herself” would [...]

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