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I am 35 and I am single. This has been the case since 2009 at which time I split up from my long-term partner, if five years fits in to your definition of long-term. I don’t particularly like being single nor do I like reinforcing a cliché by taking some solace in the single life by [...]

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  Hi.  A tough situation for sure.  At the time you’re in the thick of things, it can seem like an earth-shattering balance must be struck (you know the one:  seeming cool enough to continue the superficial game of fun and sex while still maintaining your dignity and having your needs met).  Stepping back a [...]

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This relationship sound more like “train a man” instead of “value each other”. Understand that EVERY relationship enters a phase where they battle  how the relationship will look. For example, if your partner wants sex once a month and you prefer twice a week then there will be an intimacy battle until resolved. It seems [...]

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I got to the restaurant a little more than ten minutes early, so I decided to wait around outside a while to make sure I wouldn’t seem too eager. I don’t love the politics of dating and relationships, but these things are necessary when you aren’t completely sure about the person you’re meeting. I took [...]

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Contrary to the behavior of – say – EVERY GUY IN THE UNIVERSE, guys don’t really want their girl to be easy.  It’s almost like he’s got an internal dialogue going on that goes something like this: If she’s into it, I’m definitely NOT going to say “no.”  If she’s not into it, this is [...]

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While “friends with benefits” gets all the press, there’s something else going on between friends that, although rarely discussed, is far more commonplace. It happens when romantic partners become so comfortable with each other they disregard their sex life entirely. Let’s call it “friends without benefits.” If intimacy with your partner is declining even as [...]

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First, this is a really tough situation, and there’s no easy answer. Start by knowing. You’re not alone. 3.3 million men (11.1% of U.S. fathers) are reported to live with at least one stepchild in the U.S. I can assure you that while each family comes with its own, unique look and feel, divorce is never [...]

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For the past several years a strange little dance has occurred each autumn as television networks begin unleashing their new primetime line-ups. The sexuality (or lack thereof) of each regular character from scripted shows is analyzed and recorded – then plugged into a math equation. That’s how we know, for instance, that this year CBS [...]

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“The good thing about masturbation is that you don’t have to dress up for it” – Truman Capote Masturbation is a sticky subject—especially for women. Although more men than women masturbate, masturbation is a “particularly important predictor of sexual health and happiness for women, more so than for men,” says Noam Shpancer, Ph.D., a professor [...]

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Birds do it, bees might do it and, chances are you have done it, will do it or are, most likely, doing it right now. There’s an old joke that goes “98 percent of men masturbate, and the other two percent are liars.” According to studies by famed sex researcher Alfred Kinsey and others, that [...]

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