Tokii Lab

Hiking with friends, sweating through a yoga class, or playing a rousing game of soccer can burn a few calories, we all know there are more…satisfying ways to work up an appetite (wink, wink). These sports of the bedroom variety may just leave you wandering into the kitchen at odd hours of the night or [...]

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First, my deepest condolences regarding your loss. It has long been said that there is no more devastating thing a couple (or even a person) can experience than the loss of a child. It doesn’t seem the natural order of things. Because it is so fundamentally difficult a loss to experience, it comes with it [...]

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  Hi.  A tough situation for sure.  At the time you’re in the thick of things, it can seem like an earth-shattering balance must be struck (you know the one:  seeming cool enough to continue the superficial game of fun and sex while still maintaining your dignity and having your needs met).  Stepping back a [...]

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Outspoken Democrat, James Carville, and his equally-politically-feisty Republican wife, Mary Matalin, make it hard not to view passionate political differences in a somewhat romantic light. The fact is, however, the famous, political couple is more the exception than the rule when it comes to mixing love with politics.  Why?  The way we view politics speaks [...]

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New Tokii Guest Experts share their opinion on faith and religion, both for the individual and within our daily relationships. How do you share your faith? Try This DiscoveryGame – discover yourself and your partner on a sexual, emotional and intellectual level and have fun while doing it.             Touch base with Tokii. [...]

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Contrary to the behavior of – say – EVERY GUY IN THE UNIVERSE, guys don’t really want their girl to be easy.  It’s almost like he’s got an internal dialogue going on that goes something like this: If she’s into it, I’m definitely NOT going to say “no.”  If she’s not into it, this is [...]

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Note: Anger, envy, gluttony, greed, lust, pride and sloth. Whether or not committing one of these sins will destine you to an eternity stoking Satan’s furnace is up for debate but one thing’s for sure, committing them in a relationship may leave you all alone and out in the cold. In this seven-part series, writer [...]

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While “friends with benefits” gets all the press, there’s something else going on between friends that, although rarely discussed, is far more commonplace. It happens when romantic partners become so comfortable with each other they disregard their sex life entirely. Let’s call it “friends without benefits.” If intimacy with your partner is declining even as [...]

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Luckily, to be a sexual go-getter you don’t need to do a lot of talking—you just need to do! I’m tempted to quote a very famous athletic wear slogan here, but I’ll restrain myself, since it probably popped into your mind already. There’s a lot of truth to the idea that sometimes we over-think ourselves [...]

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It’s cliched to talk about the elastic definition of family nowadays,  The idea that families come in all shapes and sizes is taken for granted, but what it means to us still tends to be oversimplified.  Family means something different to all of us,  it can mean responsibility or refuge, comfort or anxiety, the ties of [...]

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