Posted by
Ryan O'Conner

As children we constantly role played. At work numerous training courses utilize role play as a method of learning & conveying ideas. We know how to role play andwe know that it’s a proven way to enable you to get around your inhibitions!  So now let’s talk about adult role playing as in playing out a sexual fantasy!

The act of role playing in a sexual fantasy can have a very positive impact on a couple’s relationship. The couple in essence assumes acting roles in different erotic scenarios and properly done this can have a very positive overall effect.

There are many advantages of role playing. First of all, role playing is all about fantasy. Perhaps we all have had in our minds a special fantasy that we wished to have enacted but really never confessed to anyone. Women may have dreamed of being saved by a valiant hero or violated by that bad boy persona. Men on the other hand may be fascinated by exotic dancers or the innocence of a virgin.

Role playing allows you to live your dreams within the safety confines of your existing relationship. There’s no need to worry about STDs or pursuing extra-marital affairs just to achieve this goal. Role playing builds intimacy bonds, confidence and loss of sexual inhibitions and definitely alleviates boredom. The best way to approach this is to cast yourselves as strangers in this vignette, knowing full-well that it’s you both in those persona disguises.

We are humans, fallible with built-in flaws. With time, it’s a fact that relationships run the risk of becoming stale or boring with less and less sparks being generated. Role playing can rekindle romance and generate that excitement that ruled the relationship in the early years.

Depending on your comfort level, not only can you role play but you can also record the role playing. No, we are not actors or porn stars nor do we have a cameraman, lights & special effects but it can still be very entertaining and informative to watch ourselves in retrospect. If nothing else it’s bound to be amusing and generate closeness for a couple as they watch their intimate moments together, disguised in role playing.

It’s important to stress that this works best when a couple is open to fresh ideas and the participants can shed their shyness and embrace their fantasy roles. To give this every chance to succeed it is important to take some time and plan out the fantasy.

Do some research, maybe buy some inexpensive props and even have a general script outline. Select the proper location to have the fantasy feel more real and certainly to ensure that you are very comfortable in proceeding with the role playing. It is  equally important to set limits and to respect these so that the fantasy is a positive and truly enjoyable experience and escape. When done correctly, both parties will look forward with great anticipation to the next fantasy role play

The following are some common role playing scenario that can be found in erotica books or on internet sites:

• Hospital Fantasies: women turn out to be curvy nurses and men are fascinating doctors. The background is a familiar office visit where one takes care of the other.
• Goddess Worship: women turn out being powerful goddesses that are worshiped by males. Because of their power they take dominant roles.
• Uniform Fantasies; countless women are fascinated by uniforms. Men can dress up as officers and mimic an arrest or they can become sexy combat soldiers or officers in classy military uniforms. Women make sexy cops as well especially when they handcuff their man and lose the key.
• Innocent Nuns/Priests: Some men may find the innocence of nuns irresistible. Perhaps what makes nuns and priests hot in role playing is the fact that there may be a belief that they may hinder a wild side under their innocent clothing.
• Submissive Staff: Sometimes submissive roles are found sexy. For instance, the waitress or the French Maid may look sexy because they are felt to be servants and therefore men may feel potent in asking them favors.

The following piece was something we came across in our research and since we couldn’t have said it better, we offer it here as substantiation that role playing is good for body & soul! 

‘So Why Engage in Role Play?

The benefits of role playing are not something that just popped up out of nowhere. There are experts on the field that actually recommend role playing to spice marriages and add a touch of magic. There are really no disadvantages when it comes to adding a new idea that will revive a stale relationship, and if this requires some role playing, then couples should go for it.

The idea may appear awkward at first, but it appears that with time, couples start feeling comfortable in acting out their roles as they loosen up their inhibitions and most of them end up having lots of fun. Indeed, more likely than not, role playing does not end up as a onetime event. Rather, often couples feel the need to repeat and add new scenes as their love lives take a twist for the best.

According to Scott Haltzman an M.D, and author of the great book, The Secrets of Happily Married Men ‘“Part of enjoying tantalizing sex is experiencing a level of escape, role playing interweaves well with the natural tendency to dissociate from the daily demands of life. It helps your woman experience more liberation under the covers, because she can put herself mentally in a different, more exciting place.”’

There you have it! The upside to your libido and your relationship is perhaps only one fantasy role away and at worst; you may have to engage in repeatedly playing out your fantasies and your sex dreams!

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