Tokii has been running MoodMeter for over a year now. The purpose is to choose a mood emoticon to playfully share with your partner exactly how you’re feeling.  This has been one of Tokii’s most popular “toys” and it’s been around long enough now that we’ve noticed a few patterns.  Happily for us, and the wider Tokii Community, it seems as if our users are logging on in great moods!  For fellas our three most popular moods have been Happy, Frisky and Relaxed. For the girls it’s been a near-symmetric Happy, Lovestruck and Lucky!  Alison Sigmon hits the nail on the head for this one “I think because Tokii is a place to connect emotionally and physically with one’s partner, they sign in with that attitude, which is a very good thing!

It really is great that our members are coming to Tokii with positive attitudes, but we all know crumby moods surface in even the sunniest relationships.  It is because of this that we have mood emoticons for betrayed, cranky and edgy. Moods, and how they reflect on our romantic partners, can have serious effects on a relationship, for better or for worse.  David Simonson of Helpforlife.org, weighs in and says “Moods play a huge role in the health of relationships. No one wants to be around a grumpy, negative person. If this is your consistent mood in a relationship then expect the relationship to soon end.” 

If you’re partner is having a rotten day, it’s bound to rub off on you, but as tempting as it may be to try and turn the tide, sometimes you have to just let it slide.  “Be present with your partner. Listen if they feel like talking. If they don’t feel like talking, give them some space. Sometimes it’s hard to do that because they are your partner, you love them and you naturally want to help them out of that bad mood. To honour their need for space, find something else to do while they work through their own process.”

Any life worth living is going to have some highs and lows, and learning to love your partner when they’re feeling mad, or low, really is essential to a healthy relationship. It’s important to know when to steer clear, when to be a shoulder to cry on, and when the Tokii’s MoodMeter show signs of improvement, how to have fun all over again!

Until Next Time,

Karla Stephens-Tolstoy

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