Men and Women in the armed service, under even the best circumstances, sacrifice a great deal to the job, and the first thing on the chopping block is always time with their significant others. When there’s a deployment involved, the situation is naturally exacerbated, and relationships are put through the ringer probably worse than anybody else. Tokii’s membership knows that for every man and woman serving their country abroad, there’s usually somebody else at home sacrificing their heart alongside.
That’s why things like a Valentine’s Day together takes on that much more significance to couples in the military. True to form our Military Tokii Community took to our Valentine’s Game in huge numbers, and gave us some good food for thought with the statistics we got back.
The first thing we discovered is that the Tokii Military men are as evenly divided about their ideal Valentine’s Day itinerary as we’ve ever seen. It’s more or less even across the board, with men preferring “hanging out in Bed” “Visiting a “Special” spot”, going somewhere exotic” equally and only very slightly more fellas suggesting they’d like to hang out with their families.
Women it seems are more decisive in these matters, split between an exotic vacation and a stop on memory lane. “Wanting to get away from the day-to-day is not a surprising result considering how busy couples are today,” says therapist Alison Sigmon. She continues with saying, “Several studies have shown a simple change of scenery makes us more open-minded and receptive to new experiences. The more we experience ‘sameness’ the greater the risk of falling into a rut or a routine. Traveling to a new place can help you relax and see things a little differently.” Don’t have time or money to travel? Sigmon offers a few suggestions.
- Have a themed dinner you prepare together
- Don some costumes and try out role playing
- Camp out in your backyard or take a drive to new part of the city
What both the sexes seem to agree upon is that when they can’t be together, love notes, be they letters, emails, videos, Discovery Games and anything else that lets one know the other is thinking about them, are good things. While there are some Tokii people that feel these tokens only stir up the loneliness, a majority of you use these mementoes for strength and affirmation. So if duty to your country is keeping you and your soul mate apart, keep in mind that those small gestures of love, support and longing are immeasurably important, and keep ‘em coming!
I think the most interesting and telling stat to come out of this Discovery Game is the fact that while 33% of the Men surveyed said they’d want to enjoy time with their family when they’re home for Valentine’s Day, 0% of women have it in mind. My guess is the plans they’re thinking of instead will end up suiting both of them nicely.
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