You would think a relationship with funnyman Jim Carrey would be all fun. But Jenny McCarthy told Oprah the couple’s five-year romance ended because “when it’s not fun anymore, you need to start investigating and do an inquiry into the relationship.”
Jenny went on to say that her ego wasn’t caught up in having a celebrity boyfriend (Um, isn’t she also a celebrity? Maybe he’s A-list and she’s more C) and that most of all she’s a “warrior mom.” Jenny took some heat for the break up (of course), but I respect her. She has come a long way since her days hosting “Singled Out” on MTV and posing for Playboy, and I’m sure the break up wasn’t easy on either one of them regardless of the reasons behind it. Secondly, why is it that in life, if you break up with someone, you’re considered “mean” or a “heartbreaker”? Isn’t it much more humane to end a relationship that is going nowhere right away than to lead the person on until you snap, pack your crap and leave in the middle of the night?
Back to the “fun” part. While it’s no 30-year marriage, five years is a long time to date someone and apparently the pair didn’t have fun together anymore. This is interesting. Do you have fun with your partner? How often would you say? We all know it’s not realistic to have fun every day all the time, but fun’s important to keep things fresh.
This article says “loving couples should consider every day as Valentine’s Day.” Oh, please. While I agree we all make a huge effort on V-Day and then usually fizzle out until the next occasion, it’s just not realistic to do the same over-the-top lovie dovie nonsense we reserve for Valentine’s Day, birthdays and anniversaries on every ordinary day. People have demanding jobs and kids and…life. It seems spontaneity is part of the equation for keeping a relationship fun. OK, well maybe you don’t go on a hot air balloon ride or rock climbing once a week, but how about a cute little card of handwritten note? What about good, old-fashioned, for-no-reason flowers? These are small things that can keep relationships fun and fresh (and aren’t out of the script of a cheesy romantic comedy). Take your relationship online and interact and play and have fun and deepen your connection with your partner that way. There are so many possibilities.
In the end, for Jenny and Jim I think the fat lady had just sung–and there’s nothing wrong with that.