Get your Freak On: Tokii Works out the Kink

You say the word “Fetish” to ten different people and you’ll get ten different reactions. Some people equate the term with exploration, open-mindedness, and excitement while on the other end of the spectrum the idea conjures up images of degenerates, ball gags, and real freaky stuff the average Dick and Jane wouldn’t want to touch with a ten-foot pole. The thing is, they’re both right, and having a fetish can be as simple as keeping a French Maid’s outfit on hand or as complicated as setting up mannequin tableaus to get you in the mood. We might not go for all of that far out stuff, but so long as it’s safe and between consenting adults, we say, “knock yourself out.”

Test The Waters DiscoveryGame focuses on fetishes and how the Tokii crowd approaches them. When a couple swims into kinky sexual waters, it’s a way they can shake up their routine. Although the sample size of this game was smaller than some of our others, the results were no less interesting. PLAY NOW: Test the Waters

The questions we asked in our game were kept broad and more than half of our participants (64% of men and 56% of women) considered themselves as “very kinky.” Whoa there! We asked our Resident Relationship Expert Alison Sigmon what she thought the word meant to most people:

“I believe ‘kinky’ to the average couple is likely trying a new or different position, incorporating an object like a sex toy, or using visuals like porn for stimulation.” The spectrum for fetishes may be wide, but the rules for incorporating them into your sex life shouldn’t be.

Alison adds, “It’s important for couples to share what they feel safe and secure enough to try and to agree to ground rules on how the experience plays out. They also should agree to discuss it afterward without judgment or expectation that it will happen again.” Just for the record, that means, just because it gets served once, doesn’t mean it’s always on the menu.

TokiiTales is awash with stories about people trying out different ideas in the bedroom, spelling out fantasies, or even just talking about how images make our members feel. Whip It talks about a woman’s interested in dominating her boyfriend, and how she goes about convincing him to let her try out the handcuffs. In Aphrodisiac or Afro-disiac one of our contributors talks about covering his wife in chocolate and promptly cleaning it off with a few strategic licks.

We’ve all got different comfort zones, different fantasies, and different impulses that make us tick, and even if our partners aren’t keen on indulging them, it won’t hurt you to talk about them. So start the conversation – maybe your partner will surprise you. For perfect conversation starters, check out our results below, and try this and hundreds more DiscoveryGames for every taste out there. Also check out some of our other TokiiLab articles that pertain to erotica.

Check out some of these articles:

•  Sexy vs Sensual: Join The 5% Club
•  Erotic Fantasy
•  Female TokiiTales Couples Confessions
•  Sex Toys Done Right Are A Compliment To Your Sex Life

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Thanks for your input. Until next time,

Karla Stephens-Tolstoy