Do couples who play together stay together? According to a 2009 study conducted by Kelton Research, they at least want to give that theory a try. Eighty percent of respondents said they would enjoy playing video games with their significant other, with the biggest allure for 61 percent being the fact that video gaming is something a couple can do together.
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recent MSNBC survey found that 55 percent of respondents already do play video games with their partner, while almost 30 percent wish they did.
But don’t even think about letting your partner win. Nearly 70 percent of the Kelton Research survey’s respondents admitted that they’d rather win than let their date take top prize, but it’s the ladies who are fiercer competitors. More than 80 percent of women said they compete to beat their date, compared to 56 percent of men. Game on!
When it comes to competing, I know some couples who say they never fight. Ever. I also have friends who are so competitive that every argument with their spouse or partner, no matter how trivial, turns into an epic battle complete with yelling, screaming and doors that end up off their hinges from being slammed so much.
Neither of these scenarios is ultimately ideal, but I do think you need a happy medium when it comes to healthy competition in relationships. Never fighting, to me, means there’s a lack of passion. Too much obsessing over who gets the last word can get old fast (and ruin any hope of long term happiness), but get the level just right and you have a recipe for relationship success.
This is where games come in. Games by their nature involve pitting yourself against an opponent, and playing to win. Whether you opt for a game of one-on-one at the basketball court, immerse yourself in Mario Kart or dust off the Scrabble board, there are countless ways to inject some competitive spirit into your love life.
This article on askmen.com suggests that couples who work out together have better sex, and like working out, competing with someone raises your heart rate and sends adrenalin coursing through your veins. It’s not hard to see where both activities – working out and playing games together – could improve life in the bedroom and beyond.
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ersonally, I like games that involve some kind of activity, but since I’m horribly uncoordinated, the less potential for embarrassment (and merciless laughter from my boyfriend), the better. I’m better equipped for virtual sports, like tennis or bowling on Nintendo Wii. But whatever your gaming pleasure, playing to win against your significant other should help fuel your competitive fire – and ideally heat up your relationship.
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I can clearly see how this would work for a lot of couples, as our world is fueled on competition. I must say for my own relationship, there is enough fuel on the fire in other ways, that the last thing we need is more competition. Maybe this is because we have two competitive children! Our kids compete with each other all day long, and they compete for our attention constantly. At the end of the day, all we want is peace and harmony! LOL! Don’t worry about us though, we love to get out on the ocean and surf. This is a great way to share time, exercise, and have fun, without any competition!