There’s an old saying about letting someone you love go – if they come back, they’re yours – if they don’t, they never were. Which really, makes a lot of sense – leading us to question just why do some celebrity boomerang couples, who don’t work out the first time around, decide to give things another shot?
Pop songstress Alecia Moore – better known as multi-platinum selling recording artist Pink and husband Carey Hart, these days, can usually be found in a state of blissed out contentment and are regularly photographed spending time together and with their beautiful baby daughter Willow. Back in 2008, the couple, who’d been married just twenty one months, announced a high profile separation. At the time Pink could be seen taking a chainsaw to a tree, hacking into where ‘Alecia and Carey’ had been fondly carved, while lyrically declaring in response to the breakup ‘…so what? I’m still a rockstar… I don’t need you’. Strong words – despite said with tongue firmly in cheek – not usually reserved for a couple set to reunite.
Initially meeting in 2001, they’d dated until 2003 before splitting– during the period they were apart, Pink embarked on a short lived with Motley Crew drummer Tommy Lee before hooking back up with Hart and proposing, in unconventional Pink style, through a series of placards while Hart was drag racing…. Surely his eyes should have been on the road?! Still, on something of a tangent here – we guess it’s less of a safety concern than the potential choking hazard of hiding a ring in a cake…
An unfortunate bride-to-be from China actually swallowed the engagement ring that her boyfriend had hidden in a cake. Things didn’t quite go to plan and after fainting when she saw her boyfriend get down on one knee, she later said… “I realized I had just swallowed the ring with a full mouth of cake”. The not-so-lucky lady was sent to the hospital where doctors used a catheter to retrieve the ring from her stomach – ouch!
Anyhow – after Pink and Hart married in Costa Rica in 2007, the relationship lasted twenty one months before announcing an amicable separation, with Pink stating; This break up is not about cheating, anger, or fighting… ‘He is a good man, so please support him as well. One never knows the future, but mine and Carey’s just might involve beach babies and sunshine one day.’
The former lovers, who remained married – and on good terms, announced they were indeed giving the relationship another shot in April 2009 – and seem to have gone from strength to strength ever since, with Pink’s career taking a backseat to family life – Hart even has his wife’s face tattooed on his leg. A quirky take on romance if ever there were one…
Recent loved up paparazzi shots indicate Megan Fox and her husband, Brian Austin Green are expecting the pitter patter of tiny feet and it’s difficult to imagine a time that they’d called things a day but the couple actually broke off an engagement in 2009 after five years together. The couple split as Brian questioned her readiness for such a committed relationship.
“The reality is, she was 18 when I met her and she went through an enormous change in her life… just her career in general…”, he said. “I didn’t want her to feel like she was stuck because she said she wanted to be in a relationship to begin with and we just never really went in different directions. We’d say, ‘Oh, let’s kind of take a break and see what’s going on.’ It always came back together.” The split was short-lived and the aesthetically blessed pair married in 2009, living – at least so far, it would seem – happily ever after.
The freakishly attractive couple that make up Mr and Mrs Cash Warren weren’t always the picture of domesticity they are today…
Jessica Alba actually broke off her two year relationship with Cash in 2007, citing the reason that she was ready for a slice of special cake – hint hint, while he, at that point, wasn’t in a place where he felt he could commit.
Fast forward a year and the couple had not only reconciled but married and had a baby, the adorable Honor. They’ve since gone on to have a second daughter, Haven and the far-from-gruesome twosome seem to be a rock solid pairing.
So – why, if something doesn’t work out the first time, would you entertain the concept of trying again? What about the old “exes are exes for a reason” mantra?
Resurrecting an old relationship need not be a bad thing altogether, though it’s only likely to have any success if you’re both able to communicate freely as to what went wrong last time and what can be done to solve past issues if the same troubles remain simmering unresolved beneath the surface. It’s only a matter of time before you’ll find history repeating itself…
Take care before considering a reconciliation that it’s for the right reasons – a fear of being a lonely singleton doesn’t equate to a happy forced couple. Spending time alone and learning to enjoy your own company again is crucial before considering taking the plunge into any kind of relationship – whether revisiting the old or embarking on the new.
Vitally – if the reasons for you breaking up in the first place were any toxic issues – physical, mental or emotional abuse, problems relating to addiction or major unresolved and unsolvable trust concerns – steer well clear. Although the temptation to get drawn back into the situation, particularly if you feel somehow responsible for your ex, can be strong – do you really want to set yourself up for further futile misery and heartache?
So should you embrace living it up as a singleton or give things another shot? It’s very much an individual decision based on your own experiences of your relationship. What can be said though, is that if you do decide to test the waters on getting back together and find that things are going particularly well, chew any cake thoroughly – you never know!
Chloe Taylor is a quirky Welsh copywriter with a flair for life coaching and champagne drinking.
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Giulia: Celebrities provide us with a great deal of entertainment and enjoyment, both on and (increasingly) off screen. We might be able to take pointers from their success stories, and we can certainly learn from their well-publicized mistakes. I recommend this DiscoveryGame to see how addicted to celebrity news you are!