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New on TokiiTales – July 26th

Tokii — Thu, 26 Jul 2012 19:23:59 +0000

New on TokiiLab – July 25th

Tokii — Wed, 25 Jul 2012 19:17:17 +0000

This Week on Tokii!

Tokii — Mon, 23 Jul 2012 14:52:49 +0000

DISCOVERYGAMES

	EROTIC HOROSCOPES Get this week’s Erotic Horoscopes Get your FREE weekly erotic horoscope and discover how closely you and your partner’s stars are aligned this week.
	NEW FEATURE ON tokii.com Set your Relationship Status Whether you’re married, dating or just flirting, you can now set your relationship status on Tokii.com.
	TOKII SUCCESS STORY Meet Venessa and Dwayne Our members are giving Tokii rave reviews. Read some of their glowing testimonials and discover how Tokii has been helping couples lately.
	TOKIILAB INFOGRAPH Fairy Tales We have gathered the Tokii community’s views on all things fairy tale-related. Check out the results!
	NEW SEGMENT ON TOKIILAB MOOD TRENDS The World According to Moods How do our moods affect the world we live in? Business consultant and political economist Thomas Young explores the globe’s world wide web of emotions.
	NEW MOBILE APP Tokii Mobile App available on Android Our Tokii mobile App is now available for download on all iOS devices and Android Smartphones. Download yours today!

Until next time,

Karla Stephens-Tolstoy

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It’s here! Tokii’s New Android Mobile App!

Tokii — Thu, 19 Jul 2012 14:30:06 +0000

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Download the Tokii Mobile App play with our Facebook MoodMeter App and join the conversation on Facebook.

Tokii Celebrity Update! New this Week!

Tokii — Wed, 18 Jul 2012 14:20:30 +0000

Until next time,

Karla Stephens-Tolstoy

Touch base with Tokii. Get Together. Get Talking. Get Intimate. Join Today!

Download the Tokii Mobile App play with our Facebook MoodMeter App and join the conversation on Facebook.

Tokii Celebrity Update!

Tokii — Fri, 13 Jul 2012 14:03:04 +0000

Until next time,

Karla Stephens-Tolstoy

Touch base with Tokii. Get Together. Get Talking. Get Intimate. Join Today!

Download the Tokii Mobile App play with our Facebook MoodMeter App and join the conversation on Facebook.

New on Tokii – Weekly Erotic Horoscopes!

Tokii — Wed, 11 Jul 2012 13:52:31 +0000

Tokii is launching “Erotic Horoscopes” and “Erotic Zodiac Profiles”, situated in the “About Us” section of your homepage. With these new and unique tools, you can benefit from weekly astrological insight from our resident psychics, clairvoyants and astrologers- and you won’t even need a telescope to do it! Channel your star sign’s erotic tendencies and give that position you’ve been dying to try a whirl! Go on, the cosmos told you to.

Go to Tokii.com and explore a universe of starry possibilities. We guarantee that your week will take an interesting turn for the better faster than you can say, “What’s your sign?”

Until next time,

Karla Stephens-Tolstoy

Touch base with Tokii. Get Together. Get Talking. Get Intimate. Join Today!

Download the Tokii Mobile App play with our Facebook MoodMeter App and join the conversation on Facebook.

They Lived Happily Ever After. Or Did They?

Tokii — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 13:15:46 +0000

Tokii does Fairy tales:

The Prince Charming myth exposed!

Fairy tales have hit the mainstream in a big way. The stories we’ve all grown up with are being spun into Hollywood blockbusters and sexed-up versions of characters like Snow White and Little Red Riding Hood are as big of a craze as Vampires were a year ago. Fairy tales are based on some pretty contradictory values. They teach us to have high standards when it comes to choosing our princes, but they set us up for disappointment when it turns out that perfect men only exist in the movies. I’ve been married for twelve years, my husband treats me like a princess and I absolutely love it. We’re not perfect and we have our problems (Mrs. Workaholic & Mr. Hypochondriac over here), but we work together very well. My husband may not be slaying dragons or breaking spells to rescue me, but he fills up the gas tank, drives me to my appointments and most importantly, he loves me. We learn from each other in a million different ways, and I’d take that over a tall, dark and handsome prince any day.

We’re all about fairy tales this week. We’re sharing our thoughts on what they mean, why we love them, and how they’re sexier than we give them credit for. The fact is, we all write our own fairy tales. What will yours be?

Try our Fairy tale DiscoveryGames!

ASK STEVE If Disney Princesses are a man’s sexy bedtime fantasy, how should he go about asking his woman to get into some role-play fit for cartoon royalty? Steve gives our readers some racy advice on how to make all of their fairy tale sex dreams come true.

ASK DR. JOY I’m an avid fan of fantasy novels, TV and films. But, now that they’re in my head, I’m starting to have sexual fantasies about werewolves, vampires, wizards and all types of weird folk. Have I gone over the edge?

KNIGHTS IN SHINING ARMOUR: MYTH VS. REALITY If your future prince shows up on foot rather than in a horse-drawn carriage, don’t think of it as settling. I feel women expect too many aspects of the fairy tale life. There is a happy medium between fairy tales and reality and the right man can help you find it!PRINCE

CHARMING IS A LOAD OF BULLSHIT Princess Diana is a textbook example of the Cinderella dream gone awry. As Lady Di said, it’s hard to be in a marriage of three people. Prince Charles’ long time lover, Camilla, was the world’s most famous third wheel.

SNOW WHITE’S LOSS OF INNOCENCE Whether it’s on television, the big screen or in a comic book, audiences are cheering for their favorite fairy tale characters from childhood. The difference is, these updated versions of characters aren’t just heroes and villains, they are complex characters who deal with sexual temptations and gory acts of violence. This says a great deal about our current culture.

SEX, LIES AND FAIRY TALES Red Riding Hood didn’t wait around to be rescued by the patriarchal huntsman. In one of the earliest known versions of the story, the wolf forced Red to do a striptease for him before coaxing her into bed with him.

REALITY CHECK: FAIRY TALES VS. REAL LIFE These days, women living in the Western world have a lot more agency and a little less tolerance for narcissists; dragon slayers they may be. It seems as though romantic fairytales are in dire need of a 21st century makeover.

Until next time,

Karla Stephens-Tolstoy

Hollywood’s Dirty Laundry: Celebrity Love Lives Through the Ringer

Tokii — Fri, 06 Jul 2012 14:57:53 +0000

Hollywood’s Dirty Laundry: Tokii puts Celebrity love lives through the Ringer

It’s easy to feel smug when things go pear-shaped for celebrities. After all, they’re rich, beautiful and fawned over by everyone they meet – why shouldn’t life rake them through the coals once in a while?

Fair as it may seem, it’s easy to forget that celebrities are people too and that things like divorce, betrayal and heartbreak hurt, no matter what you do for a living. The trick is to contextualize these famous relationships and see where, in this moving cast of characters, we can learn a thing or two about our comparatively regular lives.

With that in mind, Tokii’s spending the week looking at Celebrities, the love they share and the mischief that they get up to. Love ‘em or hate ‘em, we all get a kick out of watching celebrities live in the spotlight.

ASK STEVE

Everyone is buzzing about the TomKat split, but what was the true reason for their separation? Steve weighs in on the A-list couple’s imminent divorce and tells it like it is: Hollywood is all about keeping up appearances and has very little to do with making real lasting relationships!

LEONARDO DICAPRIO’S MODEL CHOICE

Some guys get all the breaks. Let’s talk about the long string of bikini models that have attached themselves to Leo’s arm over the last two decades. Do you think he has a “type” or what?

POOR JOHN MAYER; STUMBLING OVER HIS OWN TITANIC EGO?

How long can a guy kiss some of the hottest girls in show business, tell anybody who’ll listen about all of the intimate details and still be a class act? Not long…

CLOONEY’S ANGELS: IS GEORGE DESTINED FOR ETERNAL BACHELORHOOD…?

Why buy the cow when you can get all of the milk in the world for free? Is Dr. Ross living the dream, or does serial bachelorhood get old after a good 20 years on the A-list?

ASHTON & MILA… FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS?

They’re the two biggest stars to come out of “That Seventies Show” and they’ve both come out of the weirdest relationships in the world. They have all of this in common, plus they’re two of the hottest people on the planet. They HAVE to be hooking up, right?

COUGARTOWN: FEMALE CELEBRITIES ON THE PROWL

Life starts at 40, and with this new wave of wealthy, horny Hollywood gals with personal trainers and plastic surgeons on speed-dial, those California Boy toys will never know what hit ‘em.

HEY, SIMON COWELL – IS BRITNEY YOUR NEW PAULA?

A strong drink without a smooth chaser is only fit for drunks in shady bars, and Simon Cowell is about as strong as they come. He needs a nice girl to balance him out- someone who’s been in the celebrity trenches and lived to sing about it. Someone who is pretty but vulnerable and who is just scary enough to keep Simon in check. He needs Britney Spears.

J-LOVE GOES FISHING FOR LEVINE AND COMES UP SHORT

Celebrities don’t usually have a problem hooking up, but they aren’t immune to the odd Social Media snafu. Jennifer Love-Hewitt makes a play for the fella who’s got moves like Jagger and comes up extremely short.

RYAN REYNOLDS AND BLAKE LIVELY; TAKING THE NEXT STEPS…

One’s a recent divorcee with a string of duds to his name, the other is an up-and-coming it girl who’s ready to explode. Mr. Reynolds better put a ring on it before his six-pack turns 40.

TROUBLE IN PARADISE FOR DEPP…

If you were a gazillionaire champion thespian splitting your time between Hollywood and life as an aristocrat in the French Countryside, would you have time to steer your marriage through a rough patch?

TOM AND KATIE: MISSION IMPOSSIBLE

So much for all that. TomKat is officially no more and the rumors are flying faster than Chuck Yeager’s dentures. Was it his religion? Was it her father? How does Suri’s outfit never ever get messy? We may never know, but you can bet your last dollar that Oprah’s couches will be taking a beating any day now.

WHY WON’T HE JUST ASK? HOW CELEBRITIES SHARE OUR PLIGHT

Ryan Seacrest pulls a live TV fake proposal gag that draws the ire of every woman in the world… Except the butt of his joke. Is Julianne Hough the most patient woman alive? Or is Ryan Seacrest on borrowed time?

Until next time,

Karla Stephens-Tolstoy

In the mood to share your mood – Tokii’s got you covered now in Facebook too

Alison Sigmon — Thu, 28 Jun 2012 16:00:09 +0000

“They say that time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself.” ~Andy Warhol

Anyone who has spent anytime with media, social or otherwise, has heard that people are off the charts busy. We are working longer hours for extended periods of time and seem to have less “together time” with our loved ones. When we do get time together, work and other things that fill day-to-day lives seem to chew into that time.

Given the conditions of our frenetic pace, it’s not surprising we feel less connected than ever despite the seemingly unlimited options to connect. Being the adaptive animals that we are, couples have leveraged their digital choices. According to one study, couples send 1,002 texts and 400 emails per year and one in 10 couples talk primarily via email and phone.

We’re communicating, but are we REALLY communicating in a connected way?

Steph and Jason’s communication challenge
Looking up at the clock, Steph sighed to herself. She had hours of work ahead of her before she could get home. She and Jason had planned several dinners in a row, but one or the other of them had to reschedule because of work. Both of them were going into the busiest time of the year in their work, and every year they were overly optimistic about having any quality time. They’d make it through this intense time again, but Steph wanted to try something different this time. Hmmm… What are the options?

Stimulate me with pictures

While the volume of email and texting is testimony enough of the comfort couples now have with communicating through digital means, some have moved beyond words and have gotten pretty creative with pictures and video. As a matter of fact, researchers found that women have really embraced sharing technology and even prefer it when being flirty and sexual with their partner. Maybe that’s part of the reason women send twice as many texts as men. The extra layer may give them a sense of security that makes them feel just a little bit bolder and more confident.

Although texting and email are very convenient, there is a high risk of misunderstanding each other. With one fifth of people admitting to misunderstanding their partner’s texts or emails, there’s a lot of room for unnecessary escalation. Some have turned to text-based emoticons and acronyms, but that even falls short.

Why? I think it’s because most of us are visual and we have deep emotional connections to colors, symbols, and shapes. When we see a beautiful picture on Pinterest, watch a video in Facebook or YouTube, or even use a colorful, descriptive Tokii mood icons, it reaches beyond our rational brain to a more primitive space within the limbic brain where our emotions and memories live. This is why we spend time looking at our photo albums and the photos of others, scroll through the gorgeous pages of Pinterest or Flipboard, or linger with someone’s new and improved Facebook wall. The visual aspect makes us feel more connected to it. It feels more like a personalized experience.

Steph and Jason were old hats at texting and using email to stay connected, and while it was really convenient, over the years it had gotten dull and felt uninspired. “Bound to happen when familiarity sets in,” she had to admit. For a while they actively used the “Poke” app in Facebook, and while they still used it, the exchanged had slowed down a lot.

Steph wanted something new, visually appealing, and stimulating. She wanted to pick an image quickly that clearly conveyed her mood and gave her the option to personalize it with her thoughts. She used Facebook a lot because it was convenient and she and Jason tended to keep up with each other there. “Any new apps there I can use?” She clicked on Facebook to find out.

Tokii’s Mood Meter Facebook app – dynamic status update

Tokii has done it again. With the Mood Meter in Tokii.com they offered couples a visually stimulating, interactive solution for a couple to share what they are feeling in more relevant ways. Then they updated and added new moods and visual options to the Mood Meter and launched it in their mobile app. Now Tokii is giving Steph and Jason an even more convenient way to flirt, play, and share what they are feeling through the Mood Meter Facebook app.

Steph and Jason and others can finally have an interactive, solution well beyond Poke and Status Update that cuts a straighter path to the pleasure centers of the brain because it’s more visual and dynamic. The simple interface can reduce risk for misunderstanding and gives couples a more personalized way to share how they are feeling.

What are you feeling? Use the Mood Meter in Facebook to let ‘em know!

Alison has a Masters of Education degree in clinical counseling & a Bachelor of Arts degree in English. As a Licensed Professional Counselor for a number of years, she worked with individuals, couples, & families on relationship issues, depression, anxiety, & addiction and has published extensively about these subjects in several mediums and publications.