Tokii Lab

If you’ve ever been in a long-term relationship, you’re familiar with the sexual trajectory. The sex typically begins with a bang (in the bed, the kitchen, the back seat of a ’96 Taurus), eases into a comfortable twice-a-week-just-because-you’re-awesome tradition of mutual respect and love. Finally, given enough time, it often coagulates into a don’t-come-near-me pile [...]

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Tanya has been known to write recipes on napkins, receipts, and Post-it notes, but has stopped short of having recipes tattooed to her derrière, though her favorites have left their mark there anyway. Set the Night on Fire There’s something irresistible about a summer evening — especially a summer evening sitting next to your honey [...]

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Are you ready for a relationship? Well—unless you’re a self-avowed bachelor or bachelorette—of course you are. If you’re single, you’ve probably been pining for your soul mate since your hormones inevitably won the war against cooties shortly after puberty. But the question wasn’t do you want a relationship? —The question was are you ready for [...]

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Note: Anger, envy, gluttony, greed, lust, pride and sloth. Whether or not committing one of these sins will destine you to an eternity stoking Satan’s furnace is up for debate but one thing’s for sure, committing them in a relationship may leave you all alone and out in the cold. In this seven-part series, writer [...]

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Dude, we need to talk. I know, I know, you’d rather watch the game but you really should hear this. You’re not in touch with your feminine side. Let me rephrase that—you’re not in touch with the feminine side of your brain. It’s not entirely your fault. In fact, you can blame biology. Three and [...]

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In 1974, the American philosopher Thomas Nagel proposed a thought experiment. Don’t worry; this isn’t going to be a philosophical diatribe—it’s going to be about women and men. Anyway, Nagel, while trying to solve a conundrum about the mind that philosophers have debated for centuries, proposed there is something important that materialists have ignored in [...]

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Being interesting isn’t just about having a great story to tell, it’s also about how well you’re able to communicate even the most mundane tale. Communication consists not only of the words we use, but also nonverbal cues such as body language. Body language includes everything from our facial expressions to how we stand or [...]

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In a changing world wrought with the hustle and bustle of economic, technological and political advances, it isn’t surprising that once-traditional definitions of loving, emotional unions are evolving, too. For most couples, “partnership” is still defined by two people in a mutual and exclusive union. Some, however, married and unmarried – limited only by their [...]

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In Part 1, I discussed ways to heat up a relationship outside of the bedroom. By investing in spontaneity, getting personal with gifts and telling your love story loudly and often, you can avoid many of the more lethal causes of slow relationship death; especially boredom.  However, boredom is just one consequence of relationship burnout: [...]

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If you’ve ever been in a long-term relationship, you’re familiar with the drill. Things start out hot and heavy, begin to wane after a couple of years and then, when you’ve finally been exposed to every messy crevice of your partner’s psyche and are on a hair-trigger about even the most innocuous of his/her behaviors, you begin [...]

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