Between the end of the glass ceiling, the “Mancession” and the chaning nature of families, ideas about “Manliness” are changing faster than anybody can keep up with.

The fella in the Tokii Community are not exception, as our DiscoveryGames reveal!

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There’s nothing in the average life of a woman that puts her body and mind through the ringer more thoroughly than having a baby pushed through it.  It’s not something anyone who hasn’t done it can ever really appreciate, that includes each and every man I know, and it probably accounts for the numbers we’re getting from the Tokii Community.  Half of the Tokii men would expect conjugal relations to resume a few days after childbirth, while 67% of our women are thinking weeks, maybe months, before they’re ready to climb back on the horse.  On the other hand, half of our men do worry about sex being painful, so there might be some redeeming sensitivity there after all.  Try out our Nursing our Intimacy DiscoveryGame with your partner or solo and tell us what you think!

The human imagination is the most powerful tool that we’ve come across so far.  It’s responsible for our science, for our art, and according to half of the Tokii Community’s men and women, it’s the driver behind our role-playing in the bedroom.  Role Playing is a change to step outside ourselves and tease, excite and indulge each other’s fantasies.  The best part is that there aren’t any wrong answers, and there’s as many options as there are costumes in the store, aliens on Star Trek or mysterious oil barons in Soap Operas.  A full 25% of our men would love to see their partners dressed up in a superhero costume, while better than half of our women wanted to role play with a gentleman in a uniform!  Check out what our Role Players are saying below, and play our Role Playing DiscoveryGame for yourself on Tokii.com today!

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There’s no feeling on earth like when you’re first in love.  Everything takes a back seat to that girl or boy sitting across from you, they’re on your mind all the time, and the sex feels like you’re planting a flag on a new universe made just for you.   After a while though, that satellite of love comes back down to Earth.  According to the Tokii community, great loves may age like wine, but almost half of men and women (43% and 44% respectively) think the sex was better way back when.  Even more dramatic, we’ve got 80% of men saying they don’t get enough sex, and 61% of women agreeing with them!  Take a look at the numbers we’ve put together for our new Info graph!  There’s only one way to fix this slide!  Let’s get busier getting busy!

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We’ve all got Fantasies, and for some of us that means inventing light sabers or getting our face on the twenty dollar bill, for most of us those fantasies revolve around the bedroom (or shower, or the boss’s desk at work or…ahem.). That’s find and good, and what’s better is that half of our Tokii members told us they’re comfortable talking to our significant others about them! Take a look at these revealing statistics, as we asked our faithful Tokii Community where they stood in when it comes to fantasies, and they answered the call in droves! The good news, most of our guys and girls (72% and 80%) have included their partners in most imaginative scenarios. The bad news is, only a few of us (27% of men and 16% of women) think the real thing could live up to it. Check out this and more with our Fantasy info graph, and then check out our Fantasy DiscoveryGame alone or with your partner to explore deeper into what we’re all thinking!

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Tokii is all for our members communicating their curiosities, but there’s no more contentious issue out there than getting busy in the behind. For some it’s just one more move in a sex repertoire, for others it’s reserved for very special occasions, and for others still it’s completely verboten. Our members took to our DiscoveryGame on the matter with their usual candour and the data we got back makes it clear that this is a very delicate issue, but the cool thing is we’ve noticed that both our guys and gals have basically similar curiosities and opinions on the subject, it’s also instructive so see why 43% women are reluctant to “go there” because they think their partner will acquire a taste.  Like the fella once said, “Once you serve the dish, it’s forever on the menu”.  What are your thoughts on the Alternate Option?  Play the DiscoveryGame Key to the Back Door, and Considering the Back Door with your partner and tell us what you think!

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We had an active response to our S&M Discovery Game from members who were curious or actively involved in these sorts of bedroom hijinks.  When I played the game myself, I had to swallow hard a few times and snap myself out of “Prude Mode“, but its always interesting to see how other people view things and to challenge yourself with new ideas. I think the really important trends developing here is that the real thrill of S&M across the board, from light spanking to some hardcore whipping, is being in control of your partner or conversely giving in and trusting your partner enough to hand him or her the keys (figuratively and literally).  The best stat here is that about half of men and women surveyed (50% and 45%) were willing to try it out if it meant something to their partner.  Like we always say, it all comes down to communicating your desires and moving from there!  Here’s a breakdown of what our members are thinking!  Curious where you fit on the S&M spectrum?  Play with your partner or solo and find out?

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Whether it’s feet or Fishnets, weird piercings or funky costumes, We wanted to know more, and we asked our more sexually adventurous Tokii members to take part in our “Fetish” DiscoveryGame, just to figure out what it was about what’s getting those freak flags flying.  We’ve never had results that are more ambiguous. Here’s what we know: this stuff is touch and go and if we want to explore these things with our partners, we’d better go about with a conversation first.  There are some things that you clearly shouldn’t spring on your partner, but curiosity is a good thing, and when it’s balanced with the comfort of both halves (or thirds, or quarters…) of the relationship, let the games begin!

*It’s probably instructive to mention that these numbers are only from the Tokii Community that played our “Fetish DiscoveryGame” and probably aren’t representative of our larger community… Probably…

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This Just In:  Men and Women Appreciate Sex Differently!  Now that you’ve recovered from this Boudoir Bombshell, take a look at the Tokii’s Breakdown of What our Guys and Gals are thinking!  Did you know 48% of men think about sex as often as they breathe?  Who says we can’t do two things at once? Visit Tokii.com and play our Arouse Me DiscoveryGame and add to our stats.

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Nothing has as much impact on the success of a couple’s relationship as sexual intimacy. Take a lesson from what couples are saying about what they love best about their desires and see how you can do the most you can to make your partner thrilled to be with you.

Visit Tokii.com and play Intimacy His Way and Intimacy Her Way DiscoveryGames. 

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