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I am 35 and I am single. This has been the case since 2009 at which time I split up from my long-term partner, if five years fits in to your definition of long-term. I don’t particularly like being single nor do I like reinforcing a cliché by taking some solace in the single life by [...]

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  Hi.  A tough situation for sure.  At the time you’re in the thick of things, it can seem like an earth-shattering balance must be struck (you know the one:  seeming cool enough to continue the superficial game of fun and sex while still maintaining your dignity and having your needs met).  Stepping back a [...]

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I got to the restaurant a little more than ten minutes early, so I decided to wait around outside a while to make sure I wouldn’t seem too eager. I don’t love the politics of dating and relationships, but these things are necessary when you aren’t completely sure about the person you’re meeting. I took [...]

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Contrary to the behavior of – say – EVERY GUY IN THE UNIVERSE, guys don’t really want their girl to be easy.  It’s almost like he’s got an internal dialogue going on that goes something like this: If she’s into it, I’m definitely NOT going to say “no.”  If she’s not into it, this is [...]

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Dude, we need to talk. I know, I know, you’d rather watch the game but you really should hear this. You’re not in touch with your feminine side. Let me rephrase that—you’re not in touch with the feminine side of your brain. It’s not entirely your fault. In fact, you can blame biology. Three and [...]

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In 1974, the American philosopher Thomas Nagel proposed a thought experiment. Don’t worry; this isn’t going to be a philosophical diatribe—it’s going to be about women and men. Anyway, Nagel, while trying to solve a conundrum about the mind that philosophers have debated for centuries, proposed there is something important that materialists have ignored in [...]

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Being interesting isn’t just about having a great story to tell, it’s also about how well you’re able to communicate even the most mundane tale. Communication consists not only of the words we use, but also nonverbal cues such as body language. Body language includes everything from our facial expressions to how we stand or [...]

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You are awesome. Your friends all say so. Who, besides you, is both willing and able to flip their eyelids inside out at a dinner party? Remember the time you had everyone practically blowing old vine zinfandel from their noses when you laid down that room clearer and then blamed it on Jenny? Oh, the [...]

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  Dazed and Confused, I have one word for you…boundaries. Some may call it expectations and others may call it standards. What you call it is irrelevant but what’s important is having them. Boundaries will determine how the relationship will move forward. While dating, there is an intense battle over relationship boundaries. How to deal [...]

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Cougars are older women who seek out younger men but Hattie is not your average cougar. She is 73 years old and still has an active sex life. Touch base with Tokii. Get Together. Get Talking. Get Intimate. Join Tokii Today! Like Tokii on Facebook, Follow us on Twitter. Get inspired with Tokii Pinterest, Get [...]

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