Tokii Lab

Luckily, to be a sexual go-getter you don’t need to do a lot of talking—you just need to do! I’m tempted to quote a very famous athletic wear slogan here, but I’ll restrain myself, since it probably popped into your mind already. There’s a lot of truth to the idea that sometimes we over-think ourselves [...]

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Usually, when someone is unwilling to make-love in the light, they’re ashamed of something they can only hide in the dark. If your boyfriend’s only sexual reticence is an aversion to sunlight, then, as you suspect, he is probably ashamed of his body. Body shame has grown exponentially among men in recent years.  Once considered [...]

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You said you “recently” found out about his cheating. I think that explains part of what you are going through right now. Although the infidelity occurred a few years ago, for you it’s as if it just happened. In your mind and heart—and relative to the process of healing—he might as well have cheated last [...]

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This is such an important issue to anyone with a partner deployed overseas. I’m so glad you asked. Luckily, technology allows many options for racy connection.  Although you might have to be a bit discreet, given the potential for prying eyes, you can still find ways to make that ocean between you boil and bubble. [...]

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Sex and the City fans probably remember a classic episode in which Samantha proclaimed to a new lover, “You’ve got funky-tasting spunk!“  She described his joy juice as a “trip to the rotten-egg buffet.”  Well, not everyone is so blunt, but it’s true that women more often complain about men’s secretions smelling like Ajax, or [...]

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Dear Turned-On, Just because she’s keeping quiet, don’t presume that she’s opposed to talking.  Sometimes women are reticent to do it because thinking about what to say takes them away from their bodily sensations.  Your girlfriend might be in a highly receptive, non-verbal zone during sex, which makes it hard to form whole sentences at [...]

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  Some toys are made with additives called “phthalates” (pronounced thal-ate).  Phthalates are used to soften plastic in order to give toys a more lifelike feel.  Unfortunately, they also give them a distinctive “new shower curtain” stench, and a porous finish that easily breeds bacteria.  As if that wasn’t bad enough, over time or when [...]

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If you’ve gone over the edge, so have millions of other people who are equally enthralled by the denizens of magical realms.  Extending your fascination to sexual fantasy isn’t even a stretch. At the very root of all our fantasies are the archetypal fairy-tale characters that most of us cherished from the time we were [...]

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Size. Men hope it doesn’t matter; women know that the right fit makes all the difference. But even when a guy is less than ideally built, you can often manage a very successful “work-around.” First thing to remember is that G-spot stimulation is usually better achieved with fingers than with a penis, so he’s actually [...]

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Talking about expectations, desires and boundaries is the best way to ensure a good time for all.  But, before you leap into bed with your pals, have a private sit-down with your wife and discuss what you’re both seeking from the experience, what you would prefer not to do or don’t want the other to [...]

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