Tokii Lab

  Hi.  A tough situation for sure.  At the time you’re in the thick of things, it can seem like an earth-shattering balance must be struck (you know the one:  seeming cool enough to continue the superficial game of fun and sex while still maintaining your dignity and having your needs met).  Stepping back a [...]

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Contrary to the behavior of – say – EVERY GUY IN THE UNIVERSE, guys don’t really want their girl to be easy.  It’s almost like he’s got an internal dialogue going on that goes something like this: If she’s into it, I’m definitely NOT going to say “no.”  If she’s not into it, this is [...]

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Oooh.  I LOVE it when we have JUST the resource already-in-place for people and couples who write in.  In this case, we recently published an article entitled “A Trip Around the World and Back for Less than 25 Bucks!”  Whether you use these particular ideas or not, it can help you get your creative, loving [...]

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Cam, I’ll start by saying this is a big deal.  You’ve been betrayed, and whatever the outcome, we don’t propose to make or break marriages in a small handful of advice-offering paragraphs.  What we do want to do is highlight some things that should help you and your partner reach a point where you can [...]

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Joanne, GOOD FOR YOU for attempting to see around corners (after all, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure!). Despite some of the examples around you, I can assure you, and our Tokii staffers (aka: marriage cheerleaders!) will echo:  Not all marriages are doomed to scorekeeping, one-upping, and lack-of-appreciating.  Not only do [...]

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You’re not alone. ABC News reported: “About 75 percent of all women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone — that is without the extra help of sex toys, hands or tongue. And 10 to 15 percent never climax under any circumstances.” One thing about which nearly everyone can agree: Not everyone can agree! (About sex [...]

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Unfortunately, there’s probably little I or anyone can tell you to make you feel less awkward in an adult store setting – at least right now.  Since you qualified your question by establishing up front that you’re “very Christian,” there’s a fair chance you’re wrestling with some internal conflict when it comes to sexuality versus [...]

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Jeff, Thanks for the great question.  Secret blabbing probably doesn’t get any more fun than this.  For starters, it isn’t just shy guys (or ladies) who get nervous about the first kiss with a new someone.  Shyness may certainly compound the problem, but your “dilemma” is truly age-old.  That said, may the slumber-party secrets be [...]

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Whoa. Easy there, Trigger. There’s no supersecret code word a girl provides, nor one you can (smoothly) ask to determine if your new interest also wants to “hunker down and get serious” after one date, but the good news is:  You don’t need to know one. Here’s why: When you decide where you want to [...]

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Denise, Sounds like you met a nice guy and the physical chemistry between you is awesome.  A super start for sure, if this ends up turning into something meaningful. That said, there are some red flags here that should probably be addressed that have nothing whatsoever to do with whether or not your relationship will [...]

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