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First, my deepest condolences regarding your loss. It has long been said that there is no more devastating thing a couple (or even a person) can experience than the loss of a child. It doesn’t seem the natural order of things. Because it is so fundamentally difficult a loss to experience, it comes with it [...]

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Outspoken Democrat, James Carville, and his equally-politically-feisty Republican wife, Mary Matalin, make it hard not to view passionate political differences in a somewhat romantic light. The fact is, however, the famous, political couple is more the exception than the rule when it comes to mixing love with politics.  Why?  The way we view politics speaks [...]

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First, this is a really tough situation, and there’s no easy answer. Start by knowing. You’re not alone. 3.3 million men (11.1% of U.S. fathers) are reported to live with at least one stepchild in the U.S. I can assure you that while each family comes with its own, unique look and feel, divorce is never [...]

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You are right, Sina, that there is nothing we can do about people and their opinions. We are all made up of different stuff, however, and have different levels of sensitivity to certain things. Sounds like your wife is really having trouble shaking the behavior and attitudes toward her at work. It’s understandable. Since these [...]

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Addiction.  It’s really complicated.  Unfortunately, there is no canned answer about whether or not the spouse of a person in recovery “should” or “should not” ever, ever, ever take a drink.  Details surrounding recovery (and the new relationship that forms as a result) are very different for every couple.  That said, regarding your particular situation, [...]

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