Size. Men hope it doesn’t matter; women know that the right fit makes all the difference. But even when a guy is less than ideally built, you can often manage a very successful “work-around.”
First thing to remember is that G-spot stimulation is usually better achieved with fingers than with a penis, so he’s actually more well equipped for earthshaking penetration than you might realize at a glance. If he doesn’t yet know how to do the hand dance, pick up a copy of “The Multi-Orgasmic Couple,” by Chia and Abrams, which offers precise instructions. Just say, “Hey, look what I bought! I thought we could have fun experimenting.” And, speaking of shopping: a joint trip to your local adult toy store should be on the agenda, where you’ll want to browse hand-held dildos shaped to target your G-whiz!
During intercourse, the hottest positions for deeper thrust are you-on-top and doggie style, so give both a shot to see which feels best. Either way, take your time with lots of pre-intercourse play to make sure you’re wildly aroused. This increases swelling of the vaginal tissues and upgrades sensitivity so that less feels like more. And, if you’re a fan of oral, you might discover that he’s already a gifted maestro, having developed the lingual skills to compensate for his diminutive apparatus. If not, that can be learned, too. Above all, don’t be shy about telling him what you need. It’s not as if he doesn’t know he’s small, and if he’s like most under-endowed men, he’s willing to do just about anything to guarantee your satisfaction.
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